There is a group of women who often suffer in silence. We are women whose husbands are caught in the snare of pornography.
This is a place of help, of hope, of strength.
This blog is written with the assumption that you have chosen to fight for your husband, your marriage, and your family.
The things posted here will be in the form of encouragement and help to do just that.

Friday, February 28, 2014

In the Eye of the Storm - Part 3: Cow

I’d like to tie up my “In the Eye of the Storm” series today.

Does anyone remember the movie “Twister”?  There is a scene where they are driving through the core of the storm and a cow flies by. Helen Hunt simply says “Cow”.   

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

In the Eye of the Storm - Part 2: Becoming a Peripheral Visionary

I’ve been really angry a lot lately.

I have promised my husband to not get mad when he "stumbles" and I think for the most part, I have done really well. Somehow I have been blessed in this way. I'm not even entirely sure why, but I'll take it.  

For the last several months

Monday, February 24, 2014

In the Eye of the Storm - Part 1: The Ole Switcheroo….

I'm a thinker. I'm an over-thinker, really. And it's occurred to me that what started for my husband as curiosity and adolescent hormones became the center of his life. It created symptoms and consequences of this behavior which have formed his personality for the last 30 years.

Friday, February 21, 2014

A New Hope

My dear sisters,

I know that there are some of you out there now who are reading this. I am so grateful for that. Writing these blogs is quite therapeutic for me, but it lightens my spirit to hope that it is helping some of you as well. I've set comments to allow for anonymous comments, but I can understand

Wednesday, February 19, 2014

Give Us This Day

Some days it's just about getting through the day.

My prayers of late have been a lot of this:

Monday, February 17, 2014

The Long and Winding Road

Perhaps one of the most difficult things for us as the wives, is to get our hopes up. We know from scripture that hope is critical, even commanded. 

“Wherefore, there must be faith; and if there must be faith there must also be hope; and if there must be hope there must also be charity.” 
– Moroni 10:20

“…this is written: that he that ploweth should plow in hope; and that he that thresheth in hope should be partaker of his hope.” 
– 1 Corinthians 9:10

But are we setting ourselves up for additional pain? 

Thursday, February 13, 2014

If a blog posts in a forest....

It has been several months since I've written. Mostly because I don't think anyone is reading at this time. I have been unsure how to promote a blog and still remain anonymous. I have some thoughts to reach out to resources that may help, and if you have any ideas to promote this blog, I welcome them. Emails can be sent to I am also still attempting to test the anonymity of my process here, so I welcome any insight on protecting me and my family while still providing what I feel is an important tool for women who struggle with this issue. While I work through these issues I will remain,  patient in hope.