There is a group of women who often suffer in silence. We are women whose husbands are caught in the snare of pornography.
This is a place of help, of hope, of strength.
This blog is written with the assumption that you have chosen to fight for your husband, your marriage, and your family.
The things posted here will be in the form of encouragement and help to do just that.

Thursday, May 29, 2014

Faith in the Small Things

I had lunch with my best girlfriend a few days ago. Our lives are actually on very similar paths.  I was murmuring to her about some of my day to day issues and we ate and chatted for an hour. Towards the end we got to talking about my family. My family seems to be often greatly affected by the death of a loved one, particularly my Dad. I was telling my friend how, while I don't like to be surprised by death, I seem to handle it better than the rest of my family. I think they all believe in Heaven and an afterlife of some sort, but it's kind of fuzzy to them. Since I have the Gospel in my life, I have a much better understanding of what is to come and death doesn't scare me. I actually look forward to it in a healthy way.

I was telling my friend this and then I epiph'ed....(I know that's not a word, but I like it!).  After murmuring about daily life for an hour or so, and then having this conversation about death, I looked at her and said, "Wow, I seem to have faith in the big things, but not the little things..."  I would like to ponder on this new understanding of myself for a bit and see what I can learn from it.

I know I get too stressed out about the little things in life and even the moderate things in life. I need to remember that everything is in Heavenly Father's hands. My husband's addiction, my family who I don't get to see and help take care of on a regular basis, the sunshine or rain on my garden - all of it is given its due attention and care, but also its due weight. Sometimes I weight things more heavily than they deserve.

One of my favorite scriptures for perspective is, " mattereth not...". This appears a few times in Doctrine and Covenants and shows that sometimes we are over-thinking things that just don't matter in the long run.

So I will try to find that balance of having faith in the little things that matter, and letting things that don't matter take care of themselves.

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Full Circle

My husband and I went to an LDS Addiction Recovery group a couple weeks ago.

Thursday, May 15, 2014

Seminar Friday May 16th

This Friday, May 16th Addo Recovery will hold a webinar educating about the trauma of spouses and loved ones.  

Register Here

Wednesday, May 14, 2014


I seem to have less time to write lately, so I'm not sure I will keep up the 3 times a week pace.

I would like to highlight an awesome resource. There are LOTS of blogs out there!

This one is great because it is a compilation of blogs:

I applied to get mine on there, but so far, no luck.

Love you all!

Friday, May 9, 2014

The Boundaries - Another Autism Analogy

I am referring to another blog again today. I am finding so many wonderful things shared by others, and I love to pass things along that inspire or help me, so I hope you will enjoy!

This is a post from autism-mom on boundaries called, Pushing the Envelope.

Monday, May 5, 2014

FYI - Conference in SLC May 10th

This looks like a great conference for this weekend:

SA Lifeline Conference

Extinction Bursts

I am sending you to another blog today with permission from the author.  I read this entry this weekend and was very impressed. I love gaining knowledge that helps me to think more objectively and logically rather than reacting emotionally. This is one of those posts.

The blog is Finding My True Identity and the post is Extinction Bursts.

I found this blog, and many others, on LDS Addiction Recovery Blogs. This is an awesome resource with blogs from loved ones as well as addicts.

Have a great day ladies!

Friday, May 2, 2014

Lose Your Life

"For whosoever will save his life shall lose it; 
but whosoever shall lose his life for my sake and the gospel’s, 
the same shall save it."