There is a group of women who often suffer in silence. We are women whose husbands are caught in the snare of pornography.
This is a place of help, of hope, of strength.
This blog is written with the assumption that you have chosen to fight for your husband, your marriage, and your family.
The things posted here will be in the form of encouragement and help to do just that.

Friday, March 28, 2014

Dig In

"Good timber does not grow with ease,
The stronger wind, the stronger trees.
The further sky, the greater length....
The more the storm, the more the strength.
By sun and cold, by rain and snow,
In trees and men good timbers grow."
-Douglas Malloch
This poem was shared by Thomas S. Monson in his October 2013 General Conference talk,
I Will Not Fail Thee, nor Forsake Thee”. 

Why are you here?

You are here because you chose to be here. You were given a choice and this is what you decided to do. You chose to come to earth and experience temptation, trials and tears. 


So you can return home in joy and with honor. So you can reach ultimate, eternal goals. We knew that this would be a terribly hard thing to do. I don't know how much detail we had, but I do know that we knew it wouldn't be easy. I also don't know if we made specific agreements or promises to specific people. It is something I've wondered about. What if someone that I'm at odds with here on Earth is someone that I loved dearly in the pre-existence and we promised to help each other come home? 

At the very least, our husbands are our spirit brothers. At the greatest, they are someone we have made eternal commitments to, maybe even before we set foot down here. I know that while I may be frustrated or hurt by my husband's choices, I am here for my own reasons too. I know that I am learning what I need to be learning and am being strengthened in ways that I otherwise might not be. 

The other thing I know, is that it will be worth it. I cannot force anyone else to make specific choices, but I know that I am responsible to keep my covenants and promises. I am accountable to Heavenly Father regardless of what anyone else's choices are, and I will receive the blessings that I have been promised, for the Lord is bound to me and I do not take that any more lightly than He takes my promises to Him. 

Dig your roots deeply my sisters. They will give you strength, they will give you nourishment and stability. But just as we must walk next to the river of filth while holding to the iron rod, we must dig our roots into the dirt while reaching for the sky. It is a messy, imperfect world, but there is a bright, beautiful sky above which is calling to us. 

Keep reaching. 

"We know there are times when we will experience heartbreaking sorrow, when we will grieve, and when we may be tested to our limits. However, such difficulties allow us to change for the better, to rebuild our lives in the way our Heavenly Father teaches us, and to become something different from what we were, with stronger testimonies than we had before." 
- Thomas S. Monson 

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