There is a group of women who often suffer in silence. We are women whose husbands are caught in the snare of pornography.
This is a place of help, of hope, of strength.
This blog is written with the assumption that you have chosen to fight for your husband, your marriage, and your family.
The things posted here will be in the form of encouragement and help to do just that.

Monday, March 10, 2014

Ye Shall Find Rest Unto Your Souls

Sometimes I have a picture in my mind of dragging myself across life's finish line, only to fall at Heavenly Father's feet and gasp, "...I'm here, I did it..."  

 "Cast me gently into morning, for the night has been unkind."  
Answer, Sarah McLachlan

But I really don't want it to be that way. I don't want to be exhausted and in the last miles of my journey continually asking if it's almost over. That was not Heavenly Father's plan. We are empowered not just to endure, but to endure well. It is the Plan of Happiness that brings us here. We are allowed to be happy amidst our trials. 

When we feel unequally or singly yoked in our lives, we need to remember that our Savior has already carried our yoke for us. We do not have to slog through the mud. In fact, if we let ourselves work that hard, we are forsaking the atonement and what it offers us. 

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Our Savior has already endured our pain, our exhaustion, our feelings that life is unfair, our personal sins of anger, struggling to forgive, and murmuring against our husbands or our lot in life. We need to call upon that atonement to help us through our difficulties. We need it just as much as our husbands do. 

If we share our troubles with the Lord, our load will be lightened. That is actually one of the lessons that we are supposed to learn: how to have more faith and let go of the things we simply cannot control. Our husbands will make their own choices. It is our responsibility to keep our covenants and promises, to be forgiving and kind, to be as empathetic as we can, and to draw nearer to our Savior who knows of our pain and struggles. 

Sometimes I'm not sure how to apply the atonement or how to increase my faith. One thing I recently learned was to remember that today is not forever. Whatever is troubling me most today will not be in my life forever. Things are constantly changing and part of the faith process is to realize that there are better things in store, but for true growth to happen, troubles will not be miraculously taken away. Heavenly Father is giving us chances to grow a little bit more each day. He is asking us what we are willing to endure and He is asking us if we trust him. 

We insist that our children trust us to follow our rules even if they don't understand them, because we can see farther than they can. That is what He asks of us. Trust Him. I have said before that we are exactly where we are for a reason and we are supposed to be learning our own lessons. We are never alone in that process. Your Savior will take your yoke from you and let you rest. Let Him. 

Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.

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